Sounds like you are doing everything you can in terms of db'ing. And yes, offer that D on a silver platter if she wants. And then make no more mention of it or the M. Don't worry about OM...they are bandaids and it may take her some time but they won't be able to meet all of her needs, either.
Give her plenty of breathing room...it's good that she's asked about the changed in you. Try to do most of them for you and not her...and those changes will stick.
Me (36) H (42) M (12) S-8 D-5 SS-18 D Day (PA) 12/02 S 10/03 R 1/03 S again 9/07 I choose Joy.
