Thanks for your insight, it really helps knowing that it's not just me dealing with these kinds of issues. Although it does not solve the problem, it helps to vent. As far as our previous sex life is a sore subject too. Non exsistant now but earlt on it was great but dwindelled over the years, I always assumed it was just how it should be at that stage of a relationship and accepted it. Later I found that my wife felt it was very one side, in favor of me of course, but caused her to be very bitter in towards the whole thing. She now says she hates the thought of it. I think that baffles me more than anything!! I can't imagine feeling that way for any reason.
