Almost 3 Months Separated

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I though I would move over here from Newcommers so here is a brief summary. I wanted to see if anyone over here has any tips for me at this stage.

12/06 - 1st bomb all the typical stuff not In love with you, have no more to give, etc.

1/07 - Moved into parents vaction house 3 weeks. W asked me to come back she missed me etc.

3/07 - Took a nice trip to Mexico and things were going much better. After trip I was doing things to be a better Husband she never really seemed to fully commit and I started getting more pushy, which in hindsight was a big mistake.

8/07 - 2nd bomb same as 1st. Still cant get over the fact that I have no treated her right throughout our Marriage a lot of resentment. This time she is more set on D and just moving on with her life. She went to a C and they just seemed to validate whatever it was she was feeling.

Today - I live 1 week at my parents vacation house and she lives there one week so we are spliting our house and kids 50/50. She wants to move on with her life and get her own place, but has not pushed forward with this since she knows we will loose money on the house. Neither one of us can keep it alone. She gives me no indications that she will ever want to work on our M again. Says things like when we sell the house and when we Divorce. I don't bring up any R talks although she does every now and then. When she does bring them up she gets angry and upset about my past treatment of her not showing her the love she deserved. I am trying to be her friend and have been doing pretty good at it lately played cards with her any MIL the last 2 nights and spent the night at our house togther. She has been really mean the past week and applogized a couple days ago and has been really friendly that past few day. She seems to notice I am moving on with my life by going out etc. She made a few comments about changes and said what next are you going to learn to dance I said no I still have no rythem. I told her I want her to be happy and if a D will do that for her then lets do it. She seems to be putting everything on hold because she does not want to sell the house. I don't think it has to do with her thinking we may get back togther, but I am not positive on this.

One more note during the past year she has been going out a lot with friends. I have snopped and know she has been talking with other men. All of these contacts ended up dying out over a month or 2. She is now talking with someone new for the past 2 weeks this one lives out of state. On this front I really am just going to stop the snopping it really does not get me anywhere.