WL, contact does not make it easier. Trust me on that. Contact sucks you back into the drama. Besides very little that will come out of his mouth will be truthful or make sense or give you any indicator what is really going on. It would be like listening to a foreign language. And you would just spin and spin, trying to dissect it. Meh. Better off away from it. Let him cook.
Use this time to focus on you. To get some rest. To pray or meditate. To exercise (a tremendous stress reliever). To pamper yourself. To spend time with friends and loved ones.
I know it sounds absurd, but find ways to laugh. I used to watch mindless TV: Friends, Will & Grace, Sex and the City. Or rent stupid movies. Laughter is good for your heart.
You are going through the motions of life. That is the way it will be for awhile. Fake it til you make it. One step at a time.
All those hideously trite sayings. But they are trite because they have proven true over time.
