This is under newcomers - urgent - Part 2

[saffie]

Would you normally go out? Sound like you wouldn't from what you have said so why notBUT not because it is 'tit for tat' but because you want to go out and GAL.

I know this is hard - it hurts. People do backslide. You cannot control her you can only hope that she will want to stay for who you are/ want yourself to be. You need to work on YOU and doing things that make you feel good and fulfilled. Think of some things that you have not done but would like to do. Plan to do one of them - SOON.

You know you can do this and you are in for the long haul. There is obviously a connection between you and your W that many on here would be so pleased to have so let her see you at your best and build on that connection She sound very lost and confused at the moment - you need to make sure there is an obvious road that she will want to follow.

Saffie