Does anyone remember the the movie Cybil?? That is who I feel like I'm living my life with. My wife can be okay one minute, okay being not crying or yelling about something just calm, but never happy and smiling at home, she will only do that with her friends. I' trying to pick out which one is the real one. I'm dealing with so many personalitys that I truely can't tell anymore. The other day we had one of those dreaded r talks and basically she told me that we just don't have the chemistry anymore, I really don't understand this I would really appreciate a female perspective on this. I'm quite sure she is depressed since she does none of the same things she used to do like decorating the house for holidays or even clean the house for that matter. She struggles just to get out of the bed and go go to work. Cries all the time and sleeps ten times more than she used to. MLC, she has been dressing much younger, hanging around the youger crown at work and even talking more like them. She is 42 and beautiful. I love every inch of her, I just wish she felt the same way. I know she wants to leave but she does not want to hurt me or the 3 kids youngest d8. She says she is trying to figure things out in her head but nothing ever changes. She wants the total blissful connection, well who doesn't?? I certainly do!! but in reality, I would except something short of that to keep my family together but something worth building on. I get the feeling that she does not see anything worth building on. To me, 3 kids and over 25 years of history together is a huge start. While we are in limbo land waiting on her decide how to fix herself as she puts it, I see so many problems arrising with the kids that I feel are directly related to our problems. How do I determine if any of what she is saying is really what she is feeling, or just give up hoping that she will feel the way she did for so many years and move on. I'm doing a lot of things to work on me and will continue to do so. The excersise really helps with the stress of everything else going on. I lover her so much and don't want to give up too soon but at some point how long is long enough?? She gives me a hug every morning before work but that is the only form of effection I get and have gotten for over a year and a half. Any thoughts??
