Going,
She is going to try on this new life and you have to let her. It is time for you to pull away from her and GAL. It is time you get out also. Reserve kicking her out for "shock and awe". You already know what effect her being on her own will produce. You need to start re-inventing yourself.

Saffie,
I would use "no holes barred" to describe porn. I believe no holds barred is more appropriate.