Took the boys last night to H's new place, small and cosy in good condition and warm. I'm happy enough. H had all of his stuff unpacked and organised. He seemed really really happy. He must have been so unhappy with me.....?
I know it's early days and the novelty may wear off, but he seemed to be really pleased with himself, not in a malicious way. I was quite uncomfortable, I couldn't be happy for him and rightly or wrongly I didn't pass comment on the place. The boys were fine and wanted to stay.
H sent me a TM later thanking me for taking the boys over, I guess he realised I could have been really awkward about it.
It's hard to know how to behave/act. I can't go dark as he keeps phoning/emailing/txt, that will be mind games and he will see through that, get angry and it will back fire. I do delay answering him and he called me yesterday because I hadn't replied to an email he had sent to me 2 hours earlier. I know I can look my best and act as if, but acting as if is to early for me right, I don't want him to think i'm ok and have moved on.
I have read on the board that it takes 4-6 weeks for them to start missing you so that will be near Xmas in that time I have H's B'day and our Anniversary.
I guess im anxious for the future, I don't know what it holds and I want him to want me. I think it's to soon for any R talks just yet, so I have to just take it 1 small step at a time.
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07