OMG your title cracked me up. Yeah, I had a fit when I saw my H on eharmonymarriage!!! I was thinking does he want to save our marriage or propose to his other woman?

Hey, a lot of people are on Myspace, Eharmony, Match . I peeked and in order to peek they make you sign up. It does say you cannot be married, so technically he should not act single. That is like an obvious betrayal. But in his mind he is acting single and trying it out. Plus, it is like snooping so try to avoid it. Make a joke that you saw him and that you wish he would wait until after the divorce to solicit since people you know will see it. Maybe even your own kids' friends? Don't yel at him or be sneaky or judge. Just act as if he needs to think about the consequences. Maybe he thinks it is harmless? Everyone is doing it kind of thing. Really stupid.

I am so sorry about the age thing. Men marry younger and women marry richer after a divorce is the stereotypical saying. My H's OW is veeeerrry young and poor and dumb. That gets old real faST. Your H may being doing this because it is the MLC thing to do in our time. Singles abound on the internet. Internet affairs are still affairs so make sure he knows how you feel about it. Other than that, there is nothing you can do about controlling it. Maybe you may consider dating also? I would if I were not so chicken sh$$. Remember the pina colada song? The couple both put out ads looking for each other but they were both cheating?

My H and I used to joke that we were like that couple even before we started dating because we were so perfect for each other. If we wrote a personals ad, we could both answer it. nOt any more...

My ad would now say," Big beefy guy who never lies and makes 6 figures."

No, you don't have to dump him over this. This is not a deal breaker. You can save your marriage.

Last edited by mkultra; 10/18/07 06:35 AM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC
M:10 R:23 years
D6 S3
Bomb: Easter, 2007
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