The worst symbol was when he wore that tight little shirt with the date HAWAII 1984 splashed on it. He bought it post affair bomb. Is he a walking ad for banging yonger girls? Sick She was born that year and that is when we went to our first U2 concert. helloooo! Creepy.
Wow... that is so gross!!! You know that already but I just had to point it out. Ew, ew, ew!!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Hope your birthday was grand, MK. Sorry I didn't get on sooner to wish you a happy day before it was over.
I suck almost as much as your H!
"And if I die today I'll be the Happy Phantom and I'll go chasing the nuns out in the yard and I'll run naked through the streets without my mask on and I will never need umbrellas in the rain I'll wake up in strawberry fields everyday and the atrocities of school I can forgive the Happy Phantom has no right to bitch." (Tori Amos)
MK, you live your life transparently with courage. There is freedom in that. There is strength in that. Joy is within your grasp because of that. Your H can't touch that.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
NOW I can see why you miss the guy. 1984 Hawaii T-Shirt? Let me guess: Mullet and Fu-Man Chu mustache as well? some guys don't know how good they have it. This whole thing will come down in flames around him sooner or later, as this young kid (23?) grows up and starts to mature. Then what will he do?
OMG, I think I just had the best birthday of my life! I don't remember ever having so much fun! My friends and I went out to a beautiful restaraunt and then went shopping!!! I bought a designer dress for my reunion and yes, it was almost the same size as I wore in high school. Almost. GRINNING!!! I never buy designer anything! I literally shop at Target for all my "teacher" clothes. My friends made me buy it and I am so grateful. They said, "Be happy, get rid of that Mommy Guilt!" The drinks were so fabulous, the best really.
Oh Yeah, My H called several times. Was he checking in? He felt very left out that I had so much fun. He was so eager to hear what I though about the U2 card! He said he wished he could have been there to see my face when I opened the card. he really thought I was going to love it? I said, "It was so cute, really funny!" He called right after the kids sang to me. I know he was sad he could not be there for another important family event. His loss. I said, "I got a card from Mom ( I call MIL, MOM) and she sent me some spending money, I am so excited! I just love the things the kids picked out, thank you so much for doing that!" I could almost hear the tears welling up in his eyes.
FOLKS, nothing is more surreal than having to facilitate your own birthday party with a 6 and 2 year old. Let me explain. Most of the time if it is Mommy's birthday then Daddy does all the set up. Because if there are kids, then usually there is a mOmmy and daddy, Right? Well, when Daddy takes off, Mommy has to do something like this.
"Kids, lets get Mommy's cake now. Ok kids, lets light Mommy's candle. What should Mommy wish for? Oh, you want to me wish for hugs and kisses? Ok! Now, here is Mommy's present from S2. Ooo." So weird and kind of ...no I will not say it.
Luckily, luckily, I could not feel sorry for myself because Friend J said she does that all the time because her H is a firefighter, Freind O said she does that all thetime because her H is a nurse, and Friend G said she is a lesbian so she will never have a man throw her a party anyways. we laughed our a$$es off to that last one!!
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
You are the woman!!!! Wow, you did everything right and was rewarded with a terrific birthday!!!! I know exactly what you mean about throwing your own birthday party. Kids LOVE parties, so you did the right thing. Of course they want to celebrate Mommy!!!!
Neph, You are so funny. Well, remember when I was so hurt because my H had to say, "The kids picked out the gifts, not me." And I took it as him saying, don't look at me. I had nothing to do with it. Well, when I told him how much I appreciated it, this time he kind of said the same thing with a different spin, like he wanted to give the kids the credit because we should be proud of how thoughtful they are. he said, "The kids picked them out all by themselves! They knew exactly what Mommy wanted. they are getting so big. D6 wanted Mommy's hair to be pretty and S2 loves taking bubbly baths. Isn't that great?" What a different spin hearing it put like that.
Kind of like Sally's episode in the closet, eh Morgan?
I got Dreamy Bath Products and expensive hair care. Really nice. Nothing romantic or overly sexy, just neutral and girly.
Thank you so much LWB. I do feel that the 48 hour rule is the only way I can get through this roller coaster. It has helped me so much to stay positive and look back at the pain instead of overblowing it. This is a crazy analogy but it is like that feeling after you have a baby. It was hard during labor but afterwards you don't really remember the pain so much cuz the baby is needing you. Maybe since we wentthrough all that, we can go through anything after 48 hours?
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
oh mk, that is awesome!!!! so glad your friends showed you a good time. and good for you for having your own b-day party with the kids. they loved it, I'm sure. I'm tickled to hear about their presents. and your H, see, I knew he was idiot enough to think that card was perfect somehow.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
