Casey, I don't see that you have done anything wrong. The babysitter is such a small thiing for H to blow up about.
As for the sex. You should NOT have to do something you are not comfortable with. Do NOT feel guilty for not wanting to be used. If it is not mutual, then he is using you.
Just curious, have you two always had issues with the sex or is this a fairly new development?
You are not dumb, btw. Don't be so hard on yourself.
(((HUGS)))
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9