Hey Gingersnap- Thanks for stopping by my thread. I don't have the answers either. My H is similar to yours in that he has moved out and there is no OW.
We are "dating", we ML, he calls me sexy, he ocassionally says ILYs; he says he loves me, doesn't regret our relationship; is paying the majority of the bills ... EXCEPT-he doesn't know whether or not he wants the marriage and he doesn't seem to want to "do" anything different to save it.
The marriage to my H is more "stable and loving" that a lot of marriages out there. We respect each other, love each other and have a good time together. We are best friends. We're attracted to each other. But, he wants more excitement. I think he thinks the "grass is greener" out there. He tells me "something" is missing.
So, as far as what is in your H's head--I really couldn't tell you and maybe your H couldn't tell you, either.
Have you asked him?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
