My sister once said that the physical appearance issue between PAL (My new official name for 2bx due to recent financial issues and based on suggestion from GP. Stands for punk *ss loser.) and myself was at least in part due to the fact that we simply didn't share the same aesthetic. I'm thinkin' that maybe you would go more for the Beautiful Byronic Anemic Vampire type than the Big Bicep Healthy Beach Boy type. My suggestion is that you do the "do unto others what you would have them do unto you" sexual switcheroozi type thing and start gnawing on his musculature a bit. Since he did cheat on you that gives you the right, maybe even the obligation, to make sure that he is pretty much continuously branded with nipple hickeys. Or you could give him a really scary prison tattoo of your name on his *ss. Whatever works for you.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver