I was just thinking yesterday about how blessed I really am.. Yes, my M is on the verge of self-destructing, but, what do I really have? A great job/income so I can support myself and my family, my health, my friends, my parents, my beauty (hahahaha!). Seriously, I still have so much and there are many people with so little... Just trying to put things in perspective
Glad to hear you are doing well and appreciating the positives in your life. So many people just want "more" or "perfect" and waste time seeking that rather than enjoying today. So... Have you spoken with an attorney about filing yet? Have you determined custody arrangements? Just curious how that's going. Take care.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
LO, It's so hard to things in perspective. But thanks for pointing that out. I needed it ...
Runningoutoftime, you are right about people just wanting more, and waste time looking for it than enjoying today. It reminded me I heard another good quote this morning:
I posted in my thread in reply to yours. I'm glad to see you in good spirits! I need some of your mojo! Ha!
We seem to be in the same boat, so to speak, about filing. Seems inevitable and any outsider looking in on my sitch would tell me I'm insane to go on in this R. But I wrote the details in my thread.
(((Olive)))
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Sol and Lo, You can't let anyone influence your decision about fighting for your marriage. They can tell you that you are crazy for fighting, but until someone has gone through it they don't know what they would do. At the end of the day the people who think we are crazy go home to their nice cozy families, we want to be able to do the same thing. Keep fighting as long as you have fight left in you. Only you can make that decision.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I hear ya. It's just nuts to think about where this M is right now, but I don't think about that too much these days, just stay focused on improving my work sitch and taking care of the kids. Right now, I need to increase my earning potential so I am still working on that daily.....just pursuing my dreams with or without my W's support. But I haven't closed the door on her, I'm just really cautious about what she wants from this R/M. I'm working on me, and doing what all of us need to be doing: "getting our MOJO back".
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Hi Joie - Thanks for checking in.. I've had a super busy week.
ROOT - I have spoken to an attorney and have all of the initial paperwork filled out. As for custody, I know what I want and I would most likely get.
Sol - good to hear from you Life keeps going on, doesn't it? It seems like once I got the other aspects of my life somewhat in line again, I didn't feel like everthing was spiraling out of control. I haven't closed the door on my M yet either but, the dude has GOT to make a decision soon. This living as "friends" in the same house is getting. I have no idea what he's thinking from day to day. I sometimes get love and affection but I've learned to take the good and bad with a grain of salt.
So, here's a timely/inspirational church sign that I saw in my travels this week: "Don't give up five minutes before a miracle happens". Something to think about..
