Seriously, I KNOW that I shouldn't be focusing on her, but who here can honestly say that this choice, calculated or not, can have some huge consequences, positve or negative? With the way her R with BF is going, I think that playing my cards right has the potential to win a second chance with her come holiday time. Not saying it is a good chance by any means, but I want to keep my chances as good as I can up until that point.
I know this isn't good that I'm thinking/worrying about it so much, but it seems like a pretty big deal to me. So, be blunt and tell me -- good choice or bad choice to do it.
And thanks for the 2x4s -- maybe they'll knock the worry out of my system. Rereading Nomo's and Heim's posts now...
GD - what choice? You're not doing anything wrong. It's innocent. Going with some friends to a Lindy Hop deal (right?), and stopping at one of the only stores that makes sense for snacks. If she reads into wrongly, that's her issue. You can't live your life worrying about her potential mis-interpretations!
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Not to say that you should consider her actions or reactions, but if, as you say, things are less than rosy for her with bf, maybe news of you shopping with three young women would create a little worry for her. I really can't envision why she would have the right to get angry considering it is innocent. As much as she might not want you, the threat of losing what should be a sure thing may shake things up a bit. Perhaps it's a 180? If nothing to this point has been working, DO SOMETHING ELSE.
But I still think the take home message is really, quit worrying so much. She obviously doesn't since she brings bf around you all the time.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
I don't know about this, not in that I don't think it is a good idea but I really don't know about this. So I thought I would offer a diffrent perspective and have everyone tell me to shut up.
So W brings BF around you. Why? Women think diffrently, at least that is what the books tell me, so her reasoning is probably to inflict pain on you since she is upset and looking to justify why she is upset, see GD another guy will pay attention.
What will she think in her head if she does see you with these women? Could it be similar to what she thinks showing off her crappy BF? Maybe some of the women on here could give there view, and does that move you closer or further from the goal. Just don't want to send the wrong message, maybe thats not very DB, cause it sure says done if you have some eye candy buying candy.
Now all of that is mute if we are talking slurpee's, well then of course everyone knows that those things rule and you have to stop. Wouldn't matter who your with or what is happening because the wonderful flavor of it all trumps feelings.
