I’d encourage both you and your W to take your time and to not rush into anything. Again, your separation has just begun. Both you and W will hopefully take this time to self reflect and to grow. Who knows how each of you will feel in six months. I can tell you that my W is hugely conflicted, vacillates on what she wants, and how she behaves.
Take this time to better understand yourself and what you want. I’m sure that you love your kids, but accept that you will not always be with them and enjoy that new found free time. Go skydiving, or learn to scuba, or take guitar lessons, or train for a marathon or take up woodworking.
Concerning dating, I wouldn’t recommend it either. If you do, you will be reducing the chances that your marriage will work out. It’s too early to play that card. Plus, you need time to grow. There probably are some things about you that caused the problems in your marriage. Take the time to think about those issues and to resolve them before reentering into your marriage or getting involved with someone else.
I believe that we are social creatures and long to be in a partner relationship, but it’s also important to not need that, to feel comfortable with yourself, and to know that you would be fine on your own,
Patience.
Me-46;W-42 Together 23 yrs Married 16 S11 S8 S6 02/10/03 Her 1st affair 10/01/06 Sep Bomb 01/01/07 Sep Begins 03/09/07 Her 2nd affair
