Thanks Morgan and Ginger. That does help. I've been considering WHEN it would be okay to even entertain 'dating', or perhaps just 'hanging' with another woman. I just know that having this lady flirt with me did help my self confidence (all time low with W doing what she has done) and general happiness. I know it is too early for full on dating cause I'm still married.
Don't know about wanting anything to do with my wife. She has burned a lot of bridge between the two of us. While I hate it that my marriage is dead, I think I have to admit it.
I'm just looking forward to when some happiness comes into my life...