W moving out & says that it's permanent - Part 3

[RedHeadWife]

I totally understand the "should have's/could have's!" One thing you will have to do no matter what happens, whether you do get the D or not, is FORGIVE YOURSELF for anything you feel you did in the M to get to the point of your wife's no turning back. You HAVE to do this, or it will be a lot harder to get on w/ your life. That was the first thing I did -- I figured out what I felt was my part in the break-down of our M and I had to let it go and forgive myself for those things, otherwise I would have spent a LONG time dwelling on what I should have or shouldn't have done instead.