Divorced but CANNOT "move on": Urgent Help Needed!

[azhira]

Told ya she'd call, sooner or later.

She didn't even thank me for going to the trouble to try to help.

Normal. Don't expect it. Just shrug it off--she did ask in the first place. That's a good baby step. Remember, right now we're just aiming for cordial interactions. (Even if they are business-like!!)

I'm sorry that you have had such a tough week. I know how worried you get when (D17) is sick.

Awesome job with validating! This is a great habit to get into.

She replied, this time in a friendlier tone, that I needed to be careful about making comments regarding our R when S12 is within hearing range.

She is absolutely right. Sometimes kids pick up on unsaid things, or even just your feelings. You may even be saying/doing things without realizing it.

couples tended to rehash the same old arguments repeatedly during a troubled marriage

In my experience, xh and I have arguments and viewpoints that will never be resolved--because we are two different people. I have learned that this is okay, to be expected, and not necessarily a bad thing. The trick is to learn how to redirect these fights or let them blow over.

I see a lot of positives here. Keep at it!