Thanks Hiscott, I hear what you are saying. I guess I keep coming back to the stuff she did that caused us to separate (affair with OM). In a round-about manner, I guess I've caught myself saying/asking "let me know if that is going to continue so I'll know how to act". I guess I can also answer that question because I must assume that it will continue since it did when I was in the house. There is no hurry to engage the divorce process so we don't need to talk about that.
I've been trying to enforce the whole 'space' thing. This has to be a true separation instead of just me sleeping somewhere else. I can't be available, and I need to be otherwise occupied, when she calls and asks me to run here or go there. I just don't want to seem like I'm passing up a chance to see my kids.
I've been on a health kick (partially due to the stress) for many months now. I've thought of joining the local "athletic club" so that I would have a place to go during the winter. It would also get me out into public, which I've been longing to do. I just need to understand the boundries for when I am out in public (pub, gym, whatever).
I'm doing good with the space and I'm enjoying not having to be around her and the associated drama. I don't wonder what she is doing all the time and I don't have to watch her "go to the store" in the evenings. So that is good. I just have a lot of questions about what lies ahead. Your advice on being patient and enjoying my space is good.
