I can identify with your situation. See my thread "mixed signals" for the whole story. I have been separated for 34 days and have even signed the divorce docs about a month ago. Yet, they have not been filed. W and I have not spoke about them either. I have on 2 occasions (in an argument) told her to file the papers ASAP. We send txt msgs back and forth every so often, just silly jokes and such. My plan is to act like I did when we were dating b/c somewhere along the way I started acting differently, probably due to work related stress. There were no issues of infidelity, abuse, drugs, alcohol, ect.
My advice to you is to frequent this board often for ideas and to vent if you have to. You will see the term: "acting as-if" alot. It has worked for me, I think since we haven't had it out in over a month. Also, try to stay busy with a hobby or being with friends, anything to keep you from dwelling on your separation. I am no expert, these are things that have worked for me. Remember, there will good and bad days, expect it and be prepared for the bad days, but know that they will pass. Good luck.
