Actually, that wasn't sarcasm, except in the sense that those things have already happened, so what do you have to fear. Really, what could it hurt to be seen with three young (and hopefully cute) women? Your wife has done her worst (I hope) and so being upset couldn't cost you much and maybe she does need to understand that you are moving on with your life. That life does include hanging out with other women and she doesn't have any say in that. I'm sure your motive isn't to get a reaction, but who knows, you've probably tried everything else.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Okay, I understand the post now -- it was apparently a bit ambiguous!
Yeah, 2 of the girls are pretty good looking, and the other is average. However, I'm starting to rethink this whole idea (yeah, I know Heim -- overthinking it). There's no doubt she will think this was calculated on my part, and think that I'm trying to make her jealous, piss her off, etc. She's going to think it is forced, and I'm starting to consider how harmful this will be. It would be one thing if we all happened to run into one another at a neutral point, but doing so at her work place seems wrong. It is the only store that is convenient on the way out of town... Argh! I just don't know what to do now. I've officially overthunk it!
Apparently I'm not so ready for the consequences after all! If this was post D, I wouldn't care so much.
I had to LOL Heim, after reading your post, I re-read J-Me's looking for something I missed (i.e. sarcasm) & still didn't find it. Glad that Me cleared up the confusion.
Even if she doesn't spot you GD, someone she knows will.
She manages the front end of the store, so she is in charge of the checkers, the booth, etc. She will no doubt see me if she is there and not at lunch. I'm actually hoping she won't be there and someone else will see us instead. I'm definitely going to avoid looking for her. Don't even think I want to make eye contact with her.
I'm officially very uncomfortable with this now. Damn the overthinking!
First, I read J_M's post just like he explained it. Not sure what's wrong with the rest of you, but I thought it was clear and precise.
Now GD, you're pissing me off!
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
However, I'm starting to rethink this whole idea (yeah, I know Heim -- overthinking it). There's no doubt she will think this was calculated on my part, and think that I'm trying to make her jealous, piss her off, etc. She's going to think it is forced, and I'm starting to consider how harmful this will be. It would be one thing if we all happened to run into one another at a neutral point, but doing so at her work place seems wrong. It is the only store that is convenient on the way out of town... Argh! I just don't know what to do now. I've officially overthunk it!
Rule No. 1 - Focus on you!!! You're going with these girls. They suggested stopping at the store for snacks. Case closed. Do it. Once you start analyzing W's reaction, effect on sitch, etc. - the focus is off you and on W. The tension goes up. The pressure goes up. Just stop there. If she gets pissed - HER PROBLEM. Not yours. You're not rubbing her nose in it. You're living your life for crying out loud. Do it. Don't think about it anymore. Give us a report if it's noteworthy.
Nomo (still , butnot really)
Apparently I'm not so ready for the consequences after all! If this was post D, I wouldn't care so much.
GD [/quote]
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
I'm officially very uncomfortable with this now. Damn the overthinking!
Maybe trying what they recommend to ease stress around public speaking.....pretend you're someone else & get into character, much as an actor would. Maybe you could picture yourself as the Darth Vadar character ahead of time. Oops...or was that Nomopo
