Its obvious your W does not have any clue how much you do for your family.
You know how I feel about this whole thing. Your W needs to pull up her stockings and make some decisions. A big wake up call is needed for her. Sounds like its coming and I really hope she figures out what her next step will be. We know what yours is, MC & saving your M. Hang in there. Keep DB'ing.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.