Thanks everyone but it's hard to detach. I feel like a fool. It's like I was there for my wife to get her through all the emotional turmoil she was going through and now that she is back, she is starting to distance herself again. She was so happy to be back and now boom it's like she is doing a 360. She said she loved me, etc. and now she is acting cold again. And she is talking to the OM again at work. They ignored each other for 1 week but now she is starting to talk to him again. I really just want to give up.