Where do I go fromhere?

[saffie]

I don't know. I can remember stories from when I was young of mums getting it on with my teenage friends but to be honest AS a mother of a son I can't think of anything worse

I guess it's personal. I would think a teenage lad is more likely statistically to bring out the maternal instinct than a sexual one in a mother, but that's not to say these things don't happen.

Your wife is more likely to be suffering from a loss of life and knowing what to do syndrome though. We females can get very waif and stray attracted when we are like this - not sexually but emotionally wanting to help others - we want to feel needed - a hard luck story brings out the best in us.

The fact that she is wanting to be friends with you I think is the most positive thing. A lot of women check out emotionally and then go. She doesn't sound as though she has checked out - just blipped a bit.

I think she may have forgotten what she sees in you sexually and her flame needs re igniting. That happened for my H and me. We have warmed it all back up again. His A, (obviously NOT the recommended solution), woke me up to my complacency and what I really wanted. DBing and GALing can only make you look more attractive. My H losing a good few pounds would have even done a bit for me - he needn't have been as extreme in what he did!!!

saffie