My H at 46 is health and fitness obsessed and is always hinting around for a biceps/body compliment, which I find just so SHALLOW. How can I increase my object orientation quotient?
Journey! I'm surprised at you-- Fours are totally into beauty and symmetry. We're the artists of the Enneagram who must be surrounded by aesthetically pleasing colors, shapes, objects, music, food... SHALLOW??!!
Please investigate this judgment of yours and get to the bottom of it. It is in your Four-ish nature to admire biceps!
Does this judgment work both ways? Do you feel "shallow" when you want him to compliment your hair or your clothes, or your body, for that matter? Is it that he doesn't compliment these things, so he doesn't deserve reciprocity?
