found a good old thread by muddlethrough (wherever you are MD, hope things are well for you))))))))) A good thing to remind myself as sometimes I get impatient and feel like shaking my H into conciousnes, most times he's just spacing out, not saying anything at all or just sitting/laying there and I feel he's just buying time.
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Q: My husband is essentially a good man, a good provider, and a good father. But I am not in love anymore. I believe it's a mistake to stay married for the children's sake. What do you think?
Signed: Not-In-Love
Dear Not-In-Love:
I don't think it is sufficient to stay married for the children's sake; parents have a responsibility to stay happily married for the children's sake. If you are married to a good man and still don't find it easy to be happy or loving, perhaps there is something wrong with you. You could be afflicted with anything from schizophrenia to romanticism.
Most likely, you are one of those romantic women who expects a man to make her happy. Men are useful for many things, but they are not generally kept around for their entertainment value. I've known women in your predicament who brought meaning and stability to their lives through such diverse activities as square dancing, fly fishing, and organic farming.
For your children's sake, if not for your own, find the things that will make you happy without having to run frustratingly through a variety of men, each of whom is sure to let to you down.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
