its funny, lwb, I am trying to think about what I will say if he does bring it up (that miniscule chance that he will). I already know what I will say when he says he wants a divorce. I'm such a ducks in a row person, I swear I need a script sometimes. wish I was as cool as you.
if he brings it up I think what i am going to do is try to just listen, let him talk. think about what I am going to say instead of just blurting it. I tend to talk first/think after sometimes, so my goal right now is to just think of you all and be silent at first, then respond. will try not to get into anything if possible, and if I find myself getting too emotional, will tell him so and tell him I need to do this another day.
one of the things I used to do was run away from confrontations/arguments. I still do a little bit, but have gotten much, much better since I started therapy. what I need to realize, though, is that there are times that it is okay to walk away. like the other week when we talked and I was so upset, I tried to leave a few times and H would berate me for it, saying, oh, there I am, walking away and such. so I would stay and take whatever abuse he was hurling at me. but what my friend reminded me later is that it is okay to walk away sometimes. so I will try to remember that.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
