Dom - i have googled Marriage Busters and downloaded a lot of info to read. I hope to remain positive and hopfeful, but as you pointed out his mind is closed and defiantly not interested, anything I do to save try to save this marriage with will be done alone and right now it seems a huge job and a long way off into the future.
I decided not to meet H for dinner on Thursday, i told him it wasn't that I didn't want to, that it was just a bit to soon and could we take a rain check until after the half term holiday? He said whenever i was ready. He texts/emails me everyday, not pressuring me anymore, but news about the boys.
A close friend (more mine) sadly passed away on Monday and H has offered to take me to the funeral this week to support me, i have thanked him for the offer and agreed for him to take me.
This evening the boys want to see their daddy's new home and I have agreed to take them and 'vet' the place before they stay over. That will be so hard.
In another vain, the boys and i are away for the holidays at the seaside and the boys would like their dad to visit them and stay over. My question is: is this a good idea to ask H?, on one hand I would like a happy light family day for the boys to see mommy and daddy together, and maybe away from the home things may be more relaxed. On the other hand it may be too soon for me?
MKultra - what is your stich, I will read and catch up. ---------------------------------------------------- About your name. It is a dissapointment but I have also felt it is something more like disillusionment. - Could you explain what you meant? ----------------------------------------------------
On a positive note, i feel more relaxed knowing he is not in the house, it is so much better having the space and not having to worry about the atmosphere and instead of waking up to his back in the morning i wake up to my son who has a smile and is pleased to see me and full of conversation. I am happy for him to be in my bed for now and I know he is happier been there.
Please keep chatting, it's good to read your preceptiona and to hear the snippets from your own stich's. Sorry its all one sided atm.
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P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
