Wedding band now gone, hers that is -

[LuckyLuke]

Very interesting thought by LarryL regarding affairs - paraphrasing -

"let them spend as much time as possible with OP, as this quickly erodes their fanstasy vision of the affair... though this is very painful ...affairs are almost always time limited ..."

an interesting silver lining to a spouse being with OP. Perhaps this natural erosion (my W already said the OM is not the love of her life), plus having filed for D, telling her this just before she left for OM, and radio silence from the kids and myself during her absence will have a beneficial effect?

Luke