Hi, I agree with hitting rock bottom. It may come to that for me. I'm sort of in the same sitch lovelyolive is in (but not as bad). OWs marriage is in the toilet, and has been for years. She sees my H as her savior. She wants him. I'm sure she wants him to move out. I know she is putting some pressure on him. But so far he has stayed.
If he moves out, and OW moves in, if I could forgive him? I don't know. That may be the final love buster for me. I told him that. But I really think that he will find the grass is not greener, just like your H did. I really do. He would be giving up so much, and I know he knows it.
He has not mentioned taking the trip since the weekend. But I did think about asking to go along. We'll see. It may never come up.
The fog really sucks. What I hate the most is when they sacrifice time or activities with the kids to be with OW. That is one thing I can't forgive my H for. He would come home late, or not at all when I was not here (D was 13 at the time), saying he was working, but most of the time he was with OW. It will take me a long time to forgive him for that. And I hope D never finds out.
I'm not in good mood tonight thinking about this. Actually he is out of town tonight, it's probably a good thing he is!!
