muddled and angry: Puddle's third thread

[Heimlich]

This isn't a casual conversation and it isn't a happy one, regardless of the spin your H wants to put on it. Your kids aren't goign to be happy. Accept that now. If your H thinks otherwise, he's an idiot. Sorry.

Treat the situation with the seriousness it deserves. Don't be hanging out, playing games or something and just blurt out, hey, mama and daddy don't love each other, I'm leaving yeah. Smiles all around.

Turn off the TV and radio and talk to them. I remember reading Nomo's post. It's good (and I think you've seen it before if I recall correctly).

Nomo is right though. Noble of your H to fall on the sword, but it doesn't do your kids any good to know that it's daddy's decision. They'll be angry enough at him because he will be leaving the house. Something is liable to manifest there, he should expect something. They are kids. You are adults. Tell them what they NEED to hear: we love you, we'll always love you, this isn't your fault. This isn't the time for your H to sooth his own feelings.

BD