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Neph,

I just read your post about your H coming to see you. It made me cry with happiness and set me up for the day.

The road ahead is long and hard work - but you know that - and is worth it. I am so pleased for you.

The anger management course, retro - everything - it all sounds so positive. Well done.

Saffie


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Thanks, Saffie. I just have this nagging feeling that all this isn't what it seems to be. I hope I'm wrong. I just feel something is not quite right.

I am exhausted. I should be sleeping. Why can't I sleep?


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((((HUGS))) neph, hope you got some sleep finally. take care, and good luck today!


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Separated-6/7/07
Piecing/h back home 5/08
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I spent a long time second guessing my H when he emotionally came back to me. My H's turn around seemed so sudden and so complete. I had nagging doubts and wondered why he decided to stay with me but time has proven him sincere. I have to have faith that he means what he says - otherwise I would go mad.

I hope you can settle and sleep. Sometimes things just seem to good to be true but that doesn't mean that they always are.

just keep working on you and then the rest should follow.

Take care

saffie


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Thank you everyone. I did get a few hours in. The kids are sick so they are waking up often. Both want to nurse constantly. It is draining, but it is keeping me busy at least.

I think I would feel better if he was here or calling, but he just seems to have withdrawn again. I will give him the benifit of the doubt. He said he thinks time is important to allow things to heal. He doesn't want to move too quickly. I will take him at his word. I just hate that he's constantly checking his watch. Strange for a man on vacation. I feel like he still has a secret life. STOP. I'm not going to analyze and speculate.

He did return my TM at 2 AM. He will be here sometime today to sign the taxes.


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Gotta have some faith!!!!

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You are amazing, first and foremost. Remember you will have to continue to DB. Work. Work. Everyday is work. Marriage is work. Get rest, eat more, find a babysitter. Use people when they offer. Send the kids with their Dad. Feel the guilt then do it.


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wish I could help you with the kids, neph. I know how hard it can be when they aren't feeling well and you are stressed to the gills yourself.

take care. good luck today...stay strong!


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Neph,

That nagging feeling is very common when they come back. You need to be strong and ignore it. Once you get to Retrouvaille you will have proof of his sincerity. Keep your chin up til then. Your mind can be your worst enemy.

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Hope the kiddos are feeling better!!

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