Dancin' Like Nobody's Watching

[Gone Dancin']

Dave,

I want you to go ahead , but its purely from a selfish point of view as I would be real interested in the reaction you get. And that reaction may not be instant.

Ha! I'll do it just for you, then! Seriously, I agree though that the reaction may not be instant, and it will likely be very difficult to know (if I even get to ever know) what the reaction is. She may react some time down the road, but it could be so far down the road that I won't be able to connect the reaction to the event.

Now if your W was not there it may even be better as her work mates would no doubt exagerate the details :).

She will be working (although she could be at lunch when we go there). It's been a long time since I've been to her work (like 4 or 5 months), so I don't know if a) any of the old employees I know still work there, and b) they'll be working at the time. I'll keep you guys posted.

sunny,

I'm on board with you exploring this tunnel as well, & think it will prolly, as you say, "make her curious and likely get her contemplating her choices -- maybe."

Exactly -- just hard to say. However, you'd think she's had plently of time now, as well as plenty of struggle with her BF recently, to get her contemplating this stuff. Oh well.

You know how to GAL like no tomorrow, it's fun to watch.

Not really -- just dancing a lot. More like getting on with my life. A little bit different. Still think about her too much. Even had a dream last night (first dream about her in a while) that she invited me to go to a concert with her, complained about BF, took me over to their house while she got ready, etc. It was an great dream (until I woke up!). I also dreamed I was a receiver for the Patriots. I woke up when it became halftime, and I was so angry when I consciously realized I wasn't going to get to dream about playing in the second half!

Cool dreams though. Cool dreams...

And, as usual, you are the Queen of dishing out PMA! Are you sure you don't want to be my date for the ski trip? I think Nomo will have his hands full fending off all of the other women that'll be swarming him!


Hey...

Who watches UFC? Anderson Silva and RIch Franklin rematch this weekend (though I'll be out of town! ). Anyone see the brutal beating Franklin took in their last fight? I'm betting on Silva again for sure!

GD

[Heimlich]

I'm with Dave, do this for us.

Hell, yeah, been watching UFC since number 3 or so. Prolly going to a friends' Sat to check it out. Silvia's a mean mofo, but if Franklin has learned how to avoid/get out of that muay thai clinch, I think he's got the hands to hurt Silvia.

Franklin's nose being smeared across his face, Couture having his lower eyelid cut, and the way crocop (or whatever his name is) fell backwards, twisting his ankle when he got knocked out a few events ago -- nastiest things I've seen.

BD

[Gone Dancin']

Okay, I'll be the guinea pig on this one! lol

What about Rampage Jackson lifting up over his head, and then bodyslamming/piling driving to the ground, that hispanic guy? Ever see that one? Knocked him out cold. That one and the Silva Muay Thai knees to Franklin's face for a good 4 minutes are most brutal for me. I was getting a little sick to my stomach watching Franklin take all of that punishment. I was putting myself in his shoes trying to imagine what it was like to be in that situation, and I gotta tell you it was deathly frightening (scared the poop out of me!)! I swear it got to the point where Silva was literally just holding Franklin up with the clinch -- otherwise Franklin wouldn't gone down earlier! I don't think Franklin can get what happened that night out of his mind, no matter how hard he tries. That was just freakin' crazy!

[waw1978]

In the interest of full disclosure, my TURKEY DAY will involve lots of alcohol, food, free love, and scantily clad adults. Who's in??? May also be a mud pit in the mix.

Nomo

Sounds like my kind of giving thanks!

[chicki]

WAW, if your in ,count me in too!!

C

[Just_Me]

Heading up to Sun Valley, ID, for a jazz festival and some Lindy Hop dancing this weekend. I'm going up and staying with 3 young hotties (19, 19, and 20), one of which I'm entering the dance competition with. They all suggested we go to the grocery store close to where we're meeting before we head out of town so we can get some snacks and whatnot. I mentioned that my W works there, and that it might be a little awkward. But now that I think about it, wouldn't it be funny if I showed up with a young, college-cutie entourage, getting snacks and overtly flirting without a care in the world? I don't care how far removed W is -- that sight would drive her nuts! I'll bet Homer would push for this one. I think I'm going to do it, just to see what kind of reaction I'll get, both short and long term...what do you guys think?

I think you should go right ahead, it'll be fun. What's the worst that can happen--she'll want a divorce and move in with her bf?

[Gone Dancin']

I think you should go right ahead, it'll be fun. What's the worst that can happen--she'll want a divorce and move in with her bf?

I have to admit that I was surprised by your response, Me -- I figured you would be critical of this (glad you're not though!). Yeah, I'm going ahead with it, and not going to worry if it causes what itty bitty chances I have to go up in smoke. Besides, she already is living with her BF -- and they aren't getting along anymore at all. At this point it is my understanding that she's only still living with him because she can't afford to get back out on her own. Also, D is schedule for Dec 7th, so that ball is already rolling too (of course I was the idiot who filed way back in January).

Thanks for stopping by, Me -- always love to hear what you have to say (and I welcome your 2x4s if you have any!).

GD

[oldtimer]

Nothing wrong with trying a little jealousy, and this sounds like a great way that doesn't risk anyone else's feelings :-)

[Heimlich]

OT, is that really you

GD, think you missed the sarcasm from just me there. Stop thinking about this so damn much. It's like you're setting up expectations that she's going to see you and start rethinking everything. Who knows, she might. She might already be doing so. She might NEVER do so. Chill, man. Get yourself some Smart Food (best damn road food ever, IMO), some Moonpies, and Red Bull and off you go.

BD

[Gone Dancin']

Heim,

No kidding! Can't believe I didn't really see the sarcasm in that the first time around. I don't believe going there would piss her off so much that she'd shut the door more than she already has though. She's brought her BF around multiple times to events and places that he probably shouldn't have come given the short amount of time they'd been dating, the fact that we're still M'd, etc. Me showing up with some girls (none of which I'm dating) to get snacks for a road trip can't be that harmful at this point. We've been separated for over 11 months, D is looming, she's living with her BF, etc. Honestly, if it seals the deal, I'll be bummed, but I'll be okay at this point. I've tried everything else and have done outstanding with it, but to no avail. I've changed in great ways in regard to my temper, being critical of her, controlling of her, etc -- I'm so proud of myself for this, and I know it wouldn't have been possible without going through this experience and finding DR and doing some counseling. I will continue being this better person for the rest of my life, but I have to see what happens with this snack idea, because it's a tunnel that has gone unexplored. Maybe I won't see any reaction ever -- oh well then, at least I tried something new. The only wrong button is...well, you know. I do wish I could get the smirk off my face or off my brain when I think about how she might feel about it, but again -- I'm obviously human and not as detached as I'd like to be. Just being able to admit it WILL get me closer to the latter though.

Thanks OT -- nice to get your opinion on the matter too! Stop by with insight, advice, or 2x4s anytime!

Me -- do you really think it is that harmful of a move, given the fact that I've done everything else and done it well?

GD