Cinder, You have no control over him seeing what he sees. You can't break the spell he's under. He must do this himself and w/the help of the man upstairs. If you attempt to snatch him from his crisis, I can almost promise you that the next time around, it will be far worse than the one he's experiencing right now. Just leave him alone and allow him to do what he must to get through the crisis.
Right now, he's living in the world of denial and if he were to finally look at himself in the mirror, he was crack. He's got to continue on w/denial and guilt for a while before he can begin to move forward. Just like anyone who experiences the grieving process. You have denial and bargaining, long before you hit the really bad depression.
Accept him for who he is today and just go on about your merry way. Keep your focus on your children and yourself. One day, he'll finally get the nerve up to look in the mirror and realize what he's done.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
