Dancin' Like Nobody's Watching

[PMA_Baby!]

Hey GD, great GALing man. You sound good. I say go 4 it. You have nothing to lose at this point. She made her bed. Show her a glimpse of your new life w/o her. I feel the same way about my sitch. I don't really want to be friends where we see eachother on a daily basis. I want to do the daycare pickup as well so I can truly have closure. I dont like the fact that she still thinks Im going to be her friend that she can count on to take care of her. I'm done enabling her. If she wants the new me she will have to work for it like I have. Work on herself I mean.

God Speed Broken

[Gone Dancin']

In the interest of full disclosure, my TURKEY DAY will involve lots of alcohol, food, free love, and scantily clad adults. Who's in??? May also be a mud pit in the mix.

I wouldn't expect anything less from you at this point, Nomo! However, I think you forgot to add football to the list.

Anyone watch the quadruple overtime between BSU and Nevada on Sunday night? It was sick to watch BSU struggle so much, but what a game!

[Nomopo]

Oh yeah, football. And cheerleaders!!!

[Nomopo]

She also told me that she redid her benefits, and that I would be removed from them at the start of 2008. I was perfectly agreeable on that and said it was fine. I fully understand that, but now I'm wondering if I should ask her if I can pay her the extra cost to keep me on? Wouldn't it be a good idea to make sure the father of her children can afford health care in the case of a medical crisis? Thoughts on this? Should I address it or leave it alone?

If you get better benefits or a better price, and you can do it so it's no cost to her, go for it. All she can do is say no.

But now that I think about it, wouldn't it be funny if I showed up with a young, college-cutie entourage, getting snacks and overtly flirting without a care in the world? I don't care how far removed W is -- that sight would drive her nuts! I'll bet Homer would push for this one. I think I'm going to do it, just to see what kind of reaction I'll get, both short and long term...what do you guys think?

I like it! And why not. Focus on you. Not if she will be upset. Ok?

Nomo

[Gone Dancin']

I like it! And why not. Focus on you. Not if she will be upset. Ok?

I hear you, and I am focusing on me -- which is why I didn't even consider the idea until the girls brough it up. I haven't even told her who I'm going with or anything (no reason to, unless I wanted to try to upset her). I do, however, think this is one of those tunnels I should explore for cheese, since I've pretty much exhausted all of the other ones to no avail. This is a Homer-esk strategy, is it not? I think it's a trying something new and taking stock thing. I've got nothing else to lose -- I'm prepared for and okay with the D at this point, though my preference is still to reconcile. It's not to make her upset, but rather to see what kind of reaction I get, both short and long term. I honestly couldn't help but see a little devilish humor in her getting a taste of her own medicine though! I'd only be lying to myself if I didn't admit to that. Just shows that I'm not detached enough yet, though I'm making moves and choices that are getting me closer.

GD

[Nomopo]

I do, however, think this is one of those tunnels I should explore for cheese, since I've pretty much exhausted all of the other ones to no avail. This is a Homer-esk strategy, is it not?

Good idea. Yes, it's Homer-esque.

Just shows that I'm not detached enough yet, though I'm making moves and choices that are getting me closer.

You're doing fine. Actually, you're doing great!!!

Nomo

[Heimlich]

While maybe not one of our better impulses, wanting to see the ex's eyes bug out when surrounded by a bevy of attractive women doesn't necessarily mean you aren't detached, just means you're human.

Don't overthink this. You need snacks. Go to the store and get some. End of story. If you're W sees you and, a la Homer, thinks to self "Egads, what have I done." Fabulous. If not, dude, you're getting snacks for a road trip with 3 hot coeds. Enjoy yourself my friend.

BD

[Gone Dancin']

Yes, it's Homer-esque.

Subtly correcting the English teacher -- my face is red! (Damn you!)

While maybe not one of our better impulses, wanting to see the ex's eyes bug out when surrounded by a bevy of attractive women doesn't necessarily mean you aren't detached, just means you're human.

In my case I think it means both! Whether it's right or not, I need to explore this tunnel -- leave no stone unturned. I'm not dating any of them, so it's not exactly Homer in that respect, but it will make her curious and likely get her contemplating her choices -- maybe.

Don't overthink this. You need snacks. Go to the store and get some. End of story.

You're absolutely right about not overthinking it. Heck, it is the most logical and convenient place to go. W may likely see it as an obvious attempt to push her buttons, make her jealous, etc, even though that would be a side effect and not the initial intention of being there. If she does, oh well -- can't help what she thinks, perceives, etc.

Thanks gentlemen -- great to have you guys in my corner.

Thanks to you too, Broken -- feedback from you was great, as well!

GD

[C_K]

GD

I want you to go ahead , but its purely from a selfish point of view as I would be real interested in the reaction you get. And that reaction may not be instant.
Now if your W was not there it may even be better as her work mates would no doubt exagerate the details :).

Dave

[SunnySeason]

Hey GD,

You're absolutely right about not overthinking it. Heck, it is the most logical and convenient place to go. W may likely see it as an obvious attempt to push her buttons, make her jealous, etc, even though that would be a side effect and not the initial intention of being there. If she does, oh well -- can't help what she thinks, perceives, etc

I'm on board with you exploring this tunnel as well, & think it will prolly, as you say, "make her curious and likely get her contemplating her choices -- maybe."


You know how to GAL like no tomorrow, it's fun to watch.

Have a great time!

Sunny