going- I'm no expert here, but a couple of things come to mind. First, as I understand it, putting the pieces back together is a long and difficult process, full of clinging and fleeing. I believe that this is typical.
Second, the best place for you to pose this question is not on this board, but instead the Piecing Our Marriage Back Together Again thread. You will find many experienced people there who can better help you. There is even a "newcomers" thread.
Because most of us here have never been where you are!!!
