THBA, Why are you being so impatient? What are you struggling with?
We have to learn to work with our R's as they are, not as we want them to be right now. You're impatience is stalling the healing process.
The healing process moves from civility to friendship to intimacy. You can't will it to move quicker than it can. You can't will it to move at a faster pace.
Making mistakes is also part of the process. Recognize that you need to slow down, and appreciate what you have before you. The R has to be restored and reinvented before you can move into an intimacy phase. She has to see that you and the R will be different. She has to be different. This will take time. You're dating your W all over again.
Enjoy the adventure and get comfortable with the mystery. Striving for certainty will only make you nuts.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
