I think he probably had NO clue what type of card to get you and tried to get a laugh out of you. Ok, so let's try this. You have always been the "bigger" one, the one that's risen about all of this, you are seen this way by OW and H too. Although we see ourselves as that older, aging, alone person at times, I don't think they see us this way. He might not have realized he struck a chord with you.
Hey MK - I think I may be in your area later this week for my little road trip. No pressure but if you're at all interested in getting together for a little GALing, feel free to email me (nikkib@surewest.net). Even just a quick meet for wine-tasting, might be fun to say hi.
Oh and on the card.. yeah, I got a really weird one for my BD from my H. It's supposed to be funny but I seriously haven't even GOTTEN the joke yet. So I know how ya feel.. not so fun. I'm sorry.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I guess I overreacted. I did resist calling or emaling him out of anger. I called my SIL and told her our 48 hour rule on our forum so she coached me down. I think we all need someone in our lives to remind us of that 48 hour rule! Because today I can laugh at it, I am only mad because he is living with someone so young and still will not admit it. Of course now everything he does, I see through affair glasses. The worst symbol was when he wore that tight little shirt with the date HAWAII 1984 splashed on it. He bought it post affair bomb. Is he a walking ad for banging yonger girls? Sick She was born that year and that is when we went to our first U2 concert. helloooo! Creepy. He is not just having an affair. he is obsessively in love and extremely loyal and protective. No one can talk sense into him..
My SIL has also been with my Bro since they were 14. They are also very attached like my H and I were but they have many issues too. I wonder if that is because my brother and I went through the divorce the same time we met our spouses? I know Donna knows how I feel about that.
Nevermind. That is in the past. I just want to break that cycle for my D6.
Thank you for the birthday wishes!!! I will picnic with my children then open my gifts that their father helped pick out. I have to brace myself for that. I am sure I will cry that he is not there and I will not know why? Then I will go to Little Italy with six lovely ladies and shoe shop and pub crawl and eat Irish pub food! Hopefully see some cute Irish guys. Hee hee.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
glad you stuck with the 48 hour rule. hard to do, but worth it in the end.
think of the worst gift your H could pick out and that will be it. he's an idiot. a self-obsessed idiot. but even if they are bad, they will be from your kids hearts...they love you.
enjoy the picnic, and have a great time tonight!!!! wish I could go along. mmm...cute irish guys. people as pale as me. lol. with yummy accents. and possibly kilts. although wouldn't you be finding italian guys in little italy?
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
My H acts younger than he is, and its sooo embarrassing. However, I have stop feeling mortified being with him and just leave all the mortification to him.
