Stub, the reality is they CANNOT be friends. I made that mistake and look where I am right now, dropping my books at Goodwill! But, the question is do you sit down and make outright demands or boundaries with her? If she's serious then she has to recognize that it's not just a matter of floating back into your life, which means she can just as easily float back out! Do you say NO CONTACT? I'm torn because, on one hand, you don't want to make unreasonable (in her eyes) demands that push her back to OW but you also don't want to be a doormat who just takes whatever crumbs she tosses you as long as she stays with you. Anybody got some advice here? Off to Goodwill now, bye bye books.
