Deadman, we are in similar sitches! Your W has found a new rescuer and therefore you are all bad. It's black or white for these kinds of people. My W too had a very emotionally deprived childhood and was an adult way before her time, now she wants someone to rescue her and know her every need. I, like you, was that rescuer initially but this thing called life, kids, etc got in the way of my being all there for her, now she's found someone who is much better at focusing entirely on her. Your W has found her "special" someone also, in her lawyer who has violated all ethics to "be with her", how romantic (puke!). We both have to let them sink or swim, it's hard to do when you still care but, again, sometimes the toughest things to do give the best results. Take care. Oh, btw, both of us need to look at why we need to be rescuers? It ain't all about them! Last point! Love is not about being "needed", it is about being wanted by someone who doesn't necessarily "need" you, much healthier, I think nayway!!!
