Luke, did we marry the same woman? Here's another tip, she will carry on about all the ways you have let her down, inconvenienced her, messed up her life. She will go on and on about it because she needs to deal with HER guilt! She can't take responsibility for her actions therefore MUST lay it on you, "if you had of been...I wouldn't of had to..." She may not come out and say it but, believe me, it's there. SHE stepped out on the M, not you and she friggin knows it! You will be the lashing post, trust me. My response was to lash right back and I outright told her "I'm not taking your sh!t anymore!" Now, we've cooled down and are better at splitting up things but her resentment still seethes and I'm presently just letting it go as long as it doesn't become outright hostile and rude, hard to do! Don't let her put you in a reactive position, look to being proactive in whatever way will work for you. The rollercoaster is just beginning, buckle up my friend...and, yes, it will get better. You WILL get through this! Oh, by the way, because you filed that now makes YOU the bad boy, in her eyes anyway. Just grin and bear it. Welcome to the club!
