So she's balking at giving you more time with your kid because you are not dressing them the right way? I mean what is her reasoning...seriously? Aiight. Well I would say continue with the mediation for now. See how far you can go this way first. See it through. And taking it automatically from your pay? Again...why?
My point is...unless she has some type of reasoning to say that you should not have time with your child or can prove that you will be unreliable in your child support...I don't think she'll get very far with the mediator.
Show patience and stay calm man. Again...none of this matters until you agree to it and sign it. If she deosn't come to terms with what is fair to you...THEN you get an attorney. IMHO anyway.
