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Another DB Success in the works...

My Story (roughly):

May/June 06 - H acting funny. Staying at work until all hours, sometimes all night. At one point says he needs to think about things.
July 07- I check his email and find a letter to OW where H expresses his undying love and devotion to her and lists their game plan to be together.
Aug 07 - I loose my job. H continues to spend time away from home and tells me that though it is over between he and OW, (she broke it off), he is done with us. I start IC.
Sept 07 - Find DBing. Read everything I can get my hands on.
Jan 08- H agrees to meet with my IC as part of my counseling. Basically to agree how to tell the kids. My IC becomes then our MC.
March 08- H stops going out every night and is just hanging around the house more.
May 08- H goes on a business trip and calls from the trip and tells me he loves me and misses me.
June 08- H verbally recommits, though he still has the philosophy that love shouldn't take work and that you should just know what the other person wants/needs if you love them. This is a topic for H in his IC sessions.
August 08- It's me that is having a hard time moving beyond as the contact with OW is constant. H feels that it is holding us back.
Sept 08- H and I go on a cruise together and really connect.
Oct 08- some slippage in making our M a priority with the kids schedules. But we're both aware that it is happening this time.

We're still working on our communication skills and building intamacy in the way that we both need/want it. But we're both commited to making it work.