Just read the good news! That's great! So another divorce busted! sign up for Retrouvaille right away, that will clear all the cobwebs out of the relationship and set you up to go in the right direction for the future. Sorry to hear he was homeless. Whew! What lengths people will go to avoid confrontation. Good luck. I think the anger management class is an excellent idea.
The 11/2 is closest, but I think H was thinking it would be later in the month. I e-mailed the above optiions and am waiting for a reply. These are the last ones until January. I am dreading him putting it off until next year. If he does, then he does. I can't do anything about it. I haven't heard from him since he left Saturday. I'm trying to be patient. I know I have to let him come to me.
Thank you, Sara. I don't feel like I am out of the woods yet. I know he is still lying about some things (restaurants and stupid stuff), but I have decided not to push. I read something on Morgan's thread. Someone gave her advice early in her sitch re: snooping. If you want to end it, having all the details will help. If you want to reconcile, the less you know, the less you have to forgive. Good advice. What difference do all the little details make anyway?
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
I purchased a home study anger management course. I should be able to get started this week. My HMO offers a group course too, but I need a referral. For that I need to be assessed. I can't get an appt til 11-5. I will work independently til then. Last time I was assessed, I was diagnosed with depression and possible suicidal tendencies, back in August. They're going to think I'm a real gem now. I have to convince them I have a big enough of a problem for a referral but not so big that they want to commit me. Good grief.
I have a bit of a problem. I need H to sign the taxes. They have to be mailed tomorrow, but I'm trying not to bug him. He knows they are due, but I'm sure it isn't at the forefront of his mind. I think I will just send a text msg. When he comes, I'll follow his lead. I don't want to push.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
were you able to get him to sign? too bad you can't fedex or messenger them over. or maybe that's me projecting...I dread seeing H this week. but you are in a very different place.
take his lead. ape him. the text is a good idea.
good luck!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I have no idea where I would send them to, or that would be a good idea. He's going to have to come over here... I'm just worried he'll think it is some kind of grand conspiracy on my part to entrap him...
It has to be done, though.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
I am getting cold feet. I am afraid of a negative response from H. What if he just ignores my TM? The taxes are already late. We don't owe anything, so I don't think they really penalize you. It's just the state ones. What if I just wait to hear from him?
I don't know. He knows the taxes are due. I mentioned it the last two times he was here. This is so rediculous. This is a legitimate reason to contact him, but I just don't want to. (banging my head against the wall)
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
