I don't know if this has occurred to you, and it sounds like you've been dealing with this pretty intensely, our situations are the same but different and all that...but somehow the more my W makes this an issue, the sillier the whole thing seems in the sense that it is getting blown out of all proportion. I mean, I feel that at the heart of it, things could be resolved if not for all the extra baggage that comes along (but then, that's true of most things, I suspect). When my W says "So you're not getting enough sex, is that it?" it both accurately sums up the problem and trivializes it at the same time...and I end up not knowing which is more accurate, "problem" or "trivial." After all, in the "scheme of things" sex shouldn't be that important...or should it? As you can see, confusion is starting to reign.
