Is it time to cut him off?

[Dom R]

I asked him why he was being mean/cold (I was searching for the right words) and he volunteered "distant?" and I said "yes. distant." He said he didn't know why. He said that he had been thinking about how nothing is really changing and wonders what we are doing. He's frustrated that he hasn't figured it out. Thinks maybe he needs more 'excitement'....

What I think he is saying is, "he isnt feeling an 'in love' hormone rush", and he's looking to base his decisions on what to do, around "what makes him feel good". Instead of "feeling good about doing the right thing".

that reaaally wants me to pop him one, and yell at him, "GROW UP AND BE A MAN, YOU PUNK!"
It makes all of us men look bad. ugh.


I'm thinking that when the 3 months rolls around, you will be well served in having a short, but concise and rational argument prepared, along the lines of, "getting married, isnt about 'staying together so long as you feel the juices flowing'. Tt's about choosing to stay together, and then choosing to make things fun for each other because you have chosen each other".

Or, to put it another way, he's suffering from "grass is greener" syndrome. He IS enjoying your time together.. but the punk keeps wondering, "well, this is fun.. but maybe I could have MORE fun if...."

Thing is... he's already shown himself, that he does NOT enjoy dating other women. So, he's just being dumb, and you'll probably just have to keep with the PMA, and wait him out of his "stupid phase", at least for a while longer.

I am seeing in other forums that people say that the LBS shouldn't move out of the house--can anyone tell me why?

a large chunk of it, is for legal reasons.

hang in there. try to avoid extremes, one way or the other.