Hello. I am a new member. I am also a computer novice. That means I don't know the talk and tech stuff. However, I am fairly intelligent so I will get it. Last sex for me 4/10/98. I even remember the time. Had I'd known that was it I would have tried for a marathon session. Michelle's book blew me away. I actually cried when I read the parts of how I have comtributed to this deadlock. I was so wrapped up in my feeling and wants I didn't even consider that H had any feelings at all. Since he withholds affection as well it has really been a dry place around here. My H is into the kind of love that has conditions, a looooooooooong list of conditions that constantly change like quick sand. Plus in public I get treated like the Queen of Sheba and the minute we are alone the good stuff turns off and I start paying for any nice thing he said or did. H thinks he is not abusive because he doesn't hit but hitting is the least of spouse abuse. ( See I told you I was all wrapped up in how I feel.)
1. Don't leave book around. Makes things worst. 2. Work on you!!!!!!!!!! 3. They really are suffering and hurting people hurt people. 4. Check your motives. 5. Bubble baths are very relaxing. For men I suggest you buy a box of Calgon the laudry stuff. It has a nice clean non perfume scent and use Ivory of the bubbles part. Choice of music and or reading up to you.
