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[Dom R]

hi...

sorry about the situation you are in.

my 2 cents;

He cried when he told my d's this morning, he said he loved me but not as a husband should

he's talking about how he feels. But that has nothing to do with the marriage commitment.
Getting married, is about a commentment to show each other love. It isnt a commitment "i'll always feel the same way about you".

He has only ever said that there are no issues but we have grown apart.

yes, any two separate individuals will do that over time.
The commitment of marriage, is about committing to put in the effort, to work at keeping common bonds alive between you.

sounds like he hasnt done that.

Have you tried talking to him along those lines?

That marriage isnt a promise "to stay together so long as you feel like it", but rather, a promise to stay together and keep treating each other well?

Unfortunatley, the "live as friends" thing, has backfired, seems like. but it also sounds like he's moving out for the wrong reasons.

If he really just doesnt understand what it takes, to make a good marriage where both people are happy... (and it may be the case... he's a man, after all ) It may be worth while asking himn to try "just one more thing", and schedule a retrouville or marriage builders weekend to go to together.