Thanks again for your comments. Considering that you're basically speaking from my perspective in the sense that you've been a sex-starved spouse, I think that reading your posts sometimes forces me to play devil's advocate with my own opinions. Believe me, the thoughts you've shared about obligations in marriage have crossed my mind numerous times. But my ultimate goal is not necessarily regular sex - it's for my wife to want me and desire me like she did at one time. However I can't really demand my wife to desire me. All I can do is fix those things about myself that might be causing her not to desire me, and basically hope for the best. Unfortunately I don't know what some of those things are. And when I've asked my wife, she claims not to know either. Maybe she does know and just doesn't want to tell me, but I honestly believe that she doesn't understand the causes of her low libido any better than I do. And I think she's probably embarrased to go to a doctor in order to find out if the problem might be something physical. As much as I want to solve this problem, I don't want to make her life miserable so that my needs can be met.
